Excerpt from the book- WE AND DEM-(c) Ras Cardo speaks.
Written without prejudice:
I must first make certain remarks so that those who read this will hopefully do it with an open mind and fairness for all people.
If you are one who cannot read something without getting severely upset, filled with rage, hatred and bias, then I will ask of you not to go beyond this point. For whether you like it or not what is written here is true and nothing you do or say is gonna change that.
This is not written to point fingers accusing anyone of being in the wrong or the right, but when tempers flare people do and say things which some will later regret.
There is need for a comprehensive re-examination
of the ways in which we look at the now- FRAGMENTED FAMILY SITUATIONS IN SOCIETY- and all the domestic tribulations- youths and adolescent suicides and murders, as well as the- SYSTEM WHICH DESIGNS AND SHAPES WELFARE-AND YES- THE FAMILY COURT SYSTEM OF OUTDATED LAWS AND INEQUITABLE PRONOUNCEMENTS.
There is an exponential rise of poverty in many areas of this country.
Many children are now living in areas where the poverty has caused untold sufferings.
There is also a growing number of men who now find themselves in poverty, homelessness, ill health, incarcerated, and rejected.
Women who have been successful in securing help by whatever means, and who are the mothers of children whom they have fled with to far away places out of the reach of their fathers must share the blame for what actions the children will manifest upon knowing the truth behind it all.
To say that some women are not a cause in the resulting behaviors of the children taken away from their fathers is just to put it mildly without veracity.
With the present conditions of enforcing child support obligations upon those unable to find work- mostly men- and the denial of the means with which they must seek work- the system has failed to make it fair and equitable for the fathers of kidnapped children to get the chance to know and bond.
WHAT WE HAVE NOW PRODUCED IS A SET OF CHILDREN WHO ARE ANGRY FOR WHAT THEY HAVE LEARNED FROM THE HATRED SHED ON THEM ABOUT THE FATHERS THEY DO NOT EVEN KNOW.
THE TRUTH IS THIS: THERE ARE WOMEN WHO INCULCATE THEIR SONS/ DAUGHTERS TO HATE THEIR FATHERS. THIS MAY/MAY NOT BE OUT OF FRUSTRATIONS EXPERIENCED BY THEIR MOTHERS.
I MUST ALSO SAY THAT THERE ARE MEN WHO DO THE SAME TO THEIR CHILDREN.
THIS TRUTH WORKS WELL WITH THOSE WHO HAVE THE FULL CUSTODY. THE NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT HAS AN INSURMOUNTABLE HILL TO CLIMB.
MOTHERS WHO FLEE FROM STATE TO STATE WHILE HAVING THE BENEFIT OF CUSTODY, CAUSING THE DENIAL OF THE FATHERS ACCESS TO THE CHILDREN BECAUSE OF THESE SEPARATIONAL HARDSHIPS, AND THE BENEFIT OF ENFORCEABLE CHILD SUPPORTS, JUST ABOUT ANY WHERE THEY MAY CHOOSE TO HIDE AND RECEIVE THE PROCEEDS, SHOULD BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE- BY THE CHILDREN AND THE FAMILY COURTS.
Teenage and adolescent suicides are on the rise, and from what I have listened and learned from the youths, has given me the reasons to write this article.
I am led to take a look at the way my parents raised my siblings and I in the abject poverty that we knew so well. Yet my parents never fragmented, never had helped from social services for there was none, no welfare support, never stole from anyone, never took sides with the other parent or against the other parent in disputes, shared with the children all the ups and downs of life which came our way constantly as more downs than ups. YET WE ENDURED AND PULLED THROUGH IT ALL.
Yet today in the richest country on the planet, I see so many youths telling me what they want to do to themselves and those who have caused them hate, and who keeps lying to them about the “deaths” of their fathers when asked.
Contrary to what most people will say, the sons who seek the truth as to why they see their mothers with other men while they are being told that their fathers are- just out of the picture- they harbor a silent resentment and wait for the day and time when they can act out their pent up emotions as to wanting to know the truth.
Have you ever heard and watched a young man tell the paramour of his mother or his so-called “step dad”- that ” you cannot tell me anything for you are not my father.”
Have you ever wondered what is behind the deaths of so many children by men who are with their mothers and are not their real dads?
Are you aware how many women use the child support of their children to support the illicit activities of other men?
THE CHILD DOES INHERIT THE CONDITIONS OF THE MOTHER. FOR THOSE MOTHERS WHO FEEL THAT IT IS OK TO DENY THE FATHER SOME SEMBLANCE OF A CHANCE TO GET TO KNOW HIS CHILD, THEN THEY ARE CONTRIBUTING TO THE DELIQUENCY AND WHATEVER COMES FROM CONSEQUENCES TO FOLLOW. Peace!